From the guests perspective, what do you think about the bouquet/garter toss?

I have always, for whatever reason, enjoyed some of the tacky traditions, and the tossing of the bouquet followed by the retreiving and tossing of the garter is one of them! As a guest, do you cringe when it comes time for all of this hooplah, or do you find it exciting?





Since we're on the topic of what the guests think, are there any other traditions that you have an immense ammount of love or hatred for?? Please elaborate!





Thanks a bunch!

From the guests perspective, what do you think about the bouquet/garter toss?
The bouquet toss is my least favorite thing about a wedding reception. It's rather embarrassing to be singled out (no pun intended, of course) as a single girl, especially if you haven't been allowed to bring a date. It's ninty times worse if the girls get into some silly wrestling match.
Reply:I don't like that tradition at all, it's just not classy. My husband and I did not do it at our wedding, nor did we do the bouquet toss. We kept things elegant.





Things I love at weddings are the bridal party coming down the aisle, and then the bride coming down with everyone standing to face her...the kiss that seals the deal at the altar, and then simply the fun of the reception. All that hard work deserves a party :)
Reply:I think the bouquet toss is lovely, but I think it's time for the garter toss to go - a niece of mine recently got married, and for the single guys she threw chocolate kisses wrapped in an embroidered hankie.


It just seems to me the garter is so sexist...
Reply:HI ,


i love bouquet toss its really something very nice its like a good luck thing for the girl who gets it.


for garter toss i am not sure i don't like it anyway, for my wedding i am going to skip this.


favors r something very impotent for me like this people remember the fun they had at ur wedding


speeches designed to embarrass the happy couple r good like this they came to now what u think about them





watching the first dance is very good and romantic done as a traditional beautiful slow dance


the father/daughter dance


and some fun stuff is also good
Reply:Can't stand the bouquet toss. Usually that's when I find the need for a drink, bathroom or phone call. Hate the money dance, chicken dance and hokey pokey. Like the introductions and toasts.
Reply:To be honest, I'm glad I'm not single, when the bouquet gets tossed. I always hated that! I also despise those money dances and wishing wells - any kind of cash-grab by the bride and groom.
Reply:I think it's a heinous, hillbilly tradition, but I guess it depends on the event. If your wedding is going to be casual and relaxed, then I guess it's fine. But at an upscale, elegant wedding, I feel that the bouquet/garter toss has no place being there. I think it really embarrasses a lot of the guests to have to take part in that.
Reply:I love it! It gives me a great laugh when you see these things! I think it is very entertaining and your guests would wonder where it was if it was not done.
Reply:I hate the bouquet toss and the garter thing. I also DESPISE the dollar dance.





I do love it when the bride and groom give their mothers a rose or other flower on their way back down the aisle after they say "I do". One wedding I went to, the couple put bracelets on each other's mother that was pearls and had a charm with "Mom" engraved on it. I though that was especially sweet.
Reply:As someone who was single until her late 30's, I always hated that tradition. I hated being trod out onto the dance floor like some loser trying anything to get a husband. That isn't me and I don't like the implication.
Reply:my oldest son is getting married in June, his fiance told me the other night that she is not doing the bouquet toss or the garter toss.....I was so relieved, I always thought it was so tacky...after you have seen it done a few hundred times, its not even a tradition anymore....
Reply:As a bride I didn't want either, so I skipped both. When I was single I absolutely despised the bouquet toss and would certainly be found making a bee-line to the ladies room when that time came around. Now that I'm married I find it MUCH more enjoyable! :-) I've always despised the garter toss..I think it's in poor taste. As I've said before..some creepy old guy always seems to catch the garter, then one of your single gf's is forced to allow him to place it on her thigh?! No way. Worse is when a little girl catches the bouquet and they continue with the whole garter thing. Yikes. I have a lot of love for watching the first dance and father-daughter dance. I think it's very sweet and really what a wedding is all about.
Reply:love:


the bride and groom's first dance


the cutting of the cake


tapping glasses for a kiss





hate:


bride and groom smashing the cake in each others faces


tossing garter/bouquet
Reply:hate: bouquet toss


garter toss


favors


speeches that go on and on and thank everyone the person ever knew


speeches designed to embarass the happy couple by dredging up stupid stories


first dances that are copying dance moves seen in movies - tacky!





love: wedding ceremony


watching the first dance done as a traditional beautiful slow dance


the father/daughter dance


light fare, not heavy heavy meals


the sheer romance of the day
Reply:especially the garter toss. and i plan on keeping my bouquet so am not going to throw it to a bunch of women who may or may not end up manhandling it.
Reply:i personally think it brings some fun into the reception. i also like the first announcement of the bride and groom as mr. and mrs. _______! i can remember that moment during my wedding. my heart skipped a beat. that was 22 years ago. but it seems like just yesterday! :)
Reply:I enjoy watching them, but have never much liked participating in the bouquet toss.
Reply:I love both traditions.





I don't not believe they are tacky or distasteful, as others have said.





Do I think some people make them that way, YES! But, anything can be made classless if you try hard enough.





I love the garter toss and the bouquet toss, if done quick and sweet.





I really enjoy the tradition and I think it's cute to see who catches the bouquet and the garter.





Of course, if a 15-year old girl gets the bouquet and a 45 year old man gets the garter, you aren't going to the guy put the garter on the young girl.





Well, I wouldn't. But, that's what I'm talking about. Some people would (thus making it classless)





But, I think this is a fine tradition, as long as you know HOW to keep in appropriate.
Reply:I think the bouquet %26amp; garter toss are fun.


I despise the chicken dance and the electric slide and now the macarena. Since I am marrying on Halloween, I'm having the DJ do the "Time Warp" from Rocky Horror!
Reply:I don't like the bouquet/garter toss much. It always made me feel all awkward to be pushed, prodded, and teased to go catch the bouquet. And the garter toss always seemed a little tacky to me, especially when the groom tries to take it off with his teeth. While I'm at it I'll add the money dance, the chicken dance, and the hokey pokey to my do not like list.